S’ad Ibn Abi waqqas (رضي الله عنه) sent another messenger to Rustam on his request. He was Rab’i Ibn Aamir (رضي الله عنه). So, he (رضي الله عنه) went to him and Rustam had adorned his assembly with precious and luxurious items. He displayed pearls and rubies and he had a crown on his head. It was bejewelled and he sat on a golden throne. Rab’i (رضي الله عنه) came dressed in simple, ordinary garments, with a sword, a shield and a short horse. He rode up to the edge of the carpet where he alighted and tied the horse to one of those pillows. He met him wearing the armour and helmet. He (رضي الله عنه) was asked to remove his helmet but he said, “I have not come on my own but have been invited by you. If you let me be as I am, then I am here, otherwise, I will return (to my place). Rustam said, “Permit him to enter.” So he (رضي الله عنه) came resting his sword on the carpet and thereby cutting them here and there.
They asked him, “What has he brought to you?”
He (رضي الله عنه) said, “Allah has sent us to bring mankind out of worship of mankind to the worship of Allah, from the narrowness of the world to its expanse, and from the oppression of religions to the justice of Islam. He has sent us with His religion to His creatures to invite them to it. So, he who accepts that, we accept it from him and go away from him, but if anyone rejects it we fight him till we reach Allah’s promise.”
They asked him (رضي الله عنه), ‘ What is the promise?”
He(رضي الله عنه) said,”Jannah for the one who dies fighting and victory for the one who survives.”
Rustam asked,”Can you defer it till we consult each other?”
He said,” A day or two.”
Rustam said,” No we shall write to our leaders and chiefs.”
Rab’i (رضي الله عنه) said,” Allah’s Messenger has not left us the practice of giving respite to an enemy beyond 3 days after facing them and choose one of the 3 things ( accept islam, pay jizyah or fight) within the time.”
He asked, ” Are you the chief of your people?’
He (رضي الله عنه) said,” No but the muslims are like a single body. The lowest of them can offer protection against the highest of them.”
Al Bidayah wan Nihayah
قال عبد الله بن عمرو بن العاص: “من بنى بأرض المشركين وصنع نيروزهم ومهرجاناتهم وتشبه بهم حتى يموت حشر معهم يوم القيامة”. (البيهقي 18642 وصححه ابن تيمية في الاقتضاء 1/754)
Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-Aas رضي الله عنه as collected by Imam al-Bayhaqi with an authentic chain when he said:
“Whosoever lives in the lands of the mushrikin and celebrates their Neyrouz and festivals and keeps imitating them until he dies in that condition, will be resurrected with them on the Day of Resurrection.”
Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه used to say:
The believer is the mirror of his brother. If he sees any fault in him, he corrects it.
[Al adab al mufrad]
Abu Darda رضي الله عنه used to say:
Shall I not tell you about something that is better for you than charity and fasting? Reconcile between your brothers, for hatred dimishes reward.
[Al adab al mufrad]
Abu Idris al-Khawlani said:
I entered the mosque of Damascus, where I saw a young man who had a bright smile, and I saw the people gathered around him. When they disagreed on some matter, they referred it to him, and accepted his opinion. I asked who he was, and they told me, ‘This is Mu’adh Ibn Jabal رضي الله عنه . ‘ Early the next day, I went to the mosque but I found that he had arrived earlier than me. He was praying, so I waited until he had finished, then I approached him from in front, greeted him and said, ‘By Allah, I love you.’ He asked,’ For the sake of Allah?’ I said,’ For the sake of Allah.’ He repeated the question, ‘For the sake of Allah?’ And I said,’ For the sake of Allah.’ So he took hold of my collar, pulled me towards him and said, ‘I have good news for you. I heard the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم say:
“Allah says: ‘My love is granted to those who love one another for My sake, who visit one another for My sake, and who spend on one another for My sake.'”
Abu Hurayra did not like to make supplications in gathering where those who broke ties of kinship were present
On one Thursday night gathering, Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه said,”I urge everyone who has broken ties of kinship to get up and leave us.” No one got up until he had said this three times. Then a young man got up and went to see a (paternal) aunt of his who he had forsaken for two years. When he entered, she said,” O son of my brother, what brings you here?” He said,” I heard Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه say such and such.” She told him,” Go back to him and ask him why he said that.” Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه said, “I heard the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم say:
The deeds of the sons of Adam are shown to Allah every Thursday evening, night preceding Friday, and the deeds of one who break the ties of kinship are not accepted.
[Al Adab al Mufrad]